Have you ever been on a first date and found yourself answering personal questions that made you slightly uncomfortable? How about those that were so forward, you turned beet red and wondered why your date had suddenly turned into your sex therapist, your accountant and your mother all at once? If this sounds familiar, don't worry. You're not alone. Most people cringe on their first date when they find themselves being interrogated about how much money they make, past relationships, favorite sexual positions, or their opinion on breast feeding vs. soy milk. Generally, these same people also feel on edge when their dates start revealing their deepest, darkest secrets.
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For those of you out there who are guilty of asking such questions or telling it as it is, try being more sensitive to your date's personal space, physical as well as mental! You may be perfectly comfortable answering these questions on your first night out (heck, you might be comfortable walking around naked too), but keep in mind that your date may not be. There are non-verbal cues that may indicate he/she is uncomfortable, such as blushing, seat shifting, nervous laughter, extreme tension, fidgeting, grimacing, the sudden onset of silence, shrieking, and fainting. Be on the lookout for positive reinforcement, like smiles, head nodding, a relaxed posture, and physical contact.
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The pace of a relationship is a very subjective thing and is different for each couple. So, feel your date out (not literally!), and if you're on the same page, then anything goes-- talk about your innermost secrets, your most erotic sexual fantasy or how you've been working as a foreign spy for the past ten years. And if you're not on the same page, there's always the weather.
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<b>Safe First-Date Topics</b>
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The Weather <br>
Seinfeld/Oprah <br>
Gossip <br>
Food <br>
Mating Habits of the Waterbuffalo/Discovery Channel or the last National Geographic feature <br>
The Oscars <br>
Reality TV Shows <br>
Movie reviews <br>
Your opinion on Dostoyevsky's Crime and Punishment <br>
The music scene <br>
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<b> Look Before You Leap Topics </b>
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Sex <br>
Politics <br>
God <br>
Marriage & Children <br><br>
Article provided courtesy of Date.ca - Canada's Online Personals and dating website <br><br><br><br>